To fall in love may be simple, but to fall out of love is quite difficult, especially if you wanted the relationship to last. It’s never easy to mend a broken heart. There is no quick way to stop your heart from aching so much.
But how do we get beyond the pain? Here are 7 tips from experts and from conversations with friends on how they patched up their heart and tried, ever so gradually, to move on.
Don’t go around it, rather go through it
You have to grieve by going through the heart break, in order to move on. Avoid going around some of the issues that were tearing you apart on the inside, because along the line, you’ll definitely bump into some thoughts that would hurt you some more. However, by going through the extreme pain, you’ll eventually lost the pain and surfaced as a stronger person ready to confront challenges head on.
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Celebrate your independence again
Don’t rush into a new relationship or attempt to win your lover back. Instead, attempt to fill the emptiness yourself. The most direct path to happiness and peace is detachment. You really don’t need anyone or anything to make you happy, all you need is yourself. When you are experiencing the intense pains of misery and heartache, you may feel your life would be incomplete without that person in it. it is so difficult to trust that I can be whole without that person in my life. It is your job to fill the void. Engage in something you love doing, go to places you love going.
Help someone else
To overcome a broken heart, you have to help someone else in need of dire assistance. Turn your attention to another person, especially someone who is struggling with similar kind of pain. This will help you forget about yourself for a moment, until you get over the painful thoughts.
Emotional tears may help
Emotional tears can help heal a broken heart says biochemist William Frey, who has spent 15 years as head of a research team studying tears. Laughter heals on many levels, but you tend to feel better after a good cry. According to research by Frey, emotional tears removes these toxic substances and relieves emotional stress.
Work it out
You can literally work out your heartache by running, swimming, walking, or kick-boxing. It would help give you immediate relief. Exercise increases the activity of serotonin and/or norepinehrine and stimulates brain chemicals that foster growth of nerve cells.
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Create a new world for yourself
Create your own safe world full of new friends who wouldn’t recognize him in a crowd. This is important if your world has crashed with his, meaning that mutual friends who have seen him may want to tell you about him. You don’t need that.
Remember to love again
Once our hearts are battered and burned from a relationship that ended, we may either close off pieces of our heart so that no one will be able to get inside, or we can love again, deeply, just as intensely as we did before. It’s better to love again because the heart only expands with the love we pour forth.