It’s important for couples to confide in each other, talk about their fears and ambitions and trust each other. However, there are some questions that women must avoid asking their men. This is because the answers won’t have any positive effect on you or him. Asking him those awkward questions only end up making both of you uncomfortable, and most of the time they make you look insecure or not confident. Let’s take a look at a few questions you should never ask your boyfriend.
- How many women have you slept with?
Don’t allow your curiosity get a hold of you by pushing you to ask your boyfriend about his past relationships and sexual escapades. Whether he answers you truthfully or not, it’s not going to help you in any way. It’s also not going to be a yardstick for the success of your relationship.
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If he’s been with a lot of women, chances are you’re going to feel insecure. If he answers that he hasn’t been with very many women at all, you might find yourself wondering if he doesn’t end his relationships too fast. Also, be prepared to answer that same question, because he will naturally want to know the answer from your side too, and you might not want to reveal something so personal.
- Do I do this better than your ex?
It’s a bad idea to ask your boyfriend if you’re better than his ex in any way – whether in your looks, cooking skills or in bed. Dragging up a past relationship will make him feel uncomfortable and uncertain. Would you prefer he flatters you by saying you cook better or would you be okay to know the bitter truth is his ex is way better off in bed than you?
So, comparing yourself to an ex-girlfriend just shows that you lack self-confidence, and can be very unappealing. He’s with you, and isn’t thinking about your ex, so why trying to dig up memories of his past relationship? It won’t help you both in either way.
- Is she prettier than me?
So what if she’s prettier than you? Would you leave the relationship because of that? It’s natural to be jealous, but we have to bring it under subjection of our control. Asking questions that compare you to another woman, just confirms your high level of unhealthy jealousy and insecurity.
Plus, are any of the possible answers going to make you feel better? “Yes, she’s prettier” will only end up making you angry and maybe make you angry or feel unattractive. If the answer is “no, you’re prettier”, you may just feel like he’s lying, or saying what he’s obligated to say. Save yourself, and him, a headache by avoiding the question and cheering yourself that if he liked her more, he’d probably be with her, and not you.
- Who just texted or called you?
If your boyfriend’s phone rings or beeps, you might wonder who it is. Asking who called or text can make you look insecure. Think of it as winning a point when you don’t ask. Chances are it could be an unknown number, the telephone company, or maybe his mum. Don’t embarrass yourself.
- Do you watch p0*rn?
If a man has access to a computer, chances are he will have watched X-rated movies at some time or another. Watching it doesn’t take away from the fact that he’s with you. If you have a feeling he does watch it, don’t stress yourself about it. Asking him if he watches it will either lead to awkwardness or he might be forced to lie to you.
- Do you think I’m getting fat?
This is another awkward question to ask your boyfriend. If you’re uncomfortable with how you look, then you can change it, if possible. You don’t need him to tell you so. Asking if you’re fat will either trigger an automatic quick response. He might lie so as not to make you feel bad by saying no. He may also say “yes, you could do with losing a few pounds.” The latter will probably make you feel very bad about your self-confidence and wish you’d never asked.
- What would you do if I got pregnant?
The answer to this question depends on the status of the relationship itself. If you’ve been married for years and you’re looking to raise a family, then this question is appropriate. However if you’re a couple of eighteen-year-olds who’ve been seeing each other for a month or so, stay away from this question completely. Or if you both are in your late twenties but started dating less than two months, then this question may be inappropriate. It’ll completely throw him off guard. Don’t worry about pregnancy unless you are actually pregnant; otherwise, this question isn’t worth asking.