Cheating is very common in relationships, even though we may want to believe our partners won’t stray. A mature man who takes his commitment to a particular woman seriously will usually not cheat. According to studies, humans are wired to be attracted to many different people, so it’s only a matter of time until a person is presented with a temptation. But does your boyfriend have the self-control to not cave in to the temptation?
Men have a character for being more promiscuous than women, and of course there is truth to that assumption because they have more testosterone in their bodies than women do. Testosterone tends to make you view life in a more sexual way and it also makes the sex drive much stronger.
Factors that makes a man faithful or to cheat
Three main factors that will greatly influence whether your man cheats or not:
- His ethics or lack of ethics.
- His self-discipline over himself or lack of it.
None of the things listed factors include a man may or may not cheat on a woman based on “how much he loves her.” Many women erroneously believe that a man will not cheat on her if he simply loves her. This is not true. Maybe, in her mind, she would never cheat on her boyfriend because she loves him, but the reverse is not true much of the time. Often, men don’t cheat because they have fallen out of love with you. Most men cheat because they simply have the opportunity and have no ethical or moral problem with it.
When it comes to being unfaithful, many people have this mentality. No amount of love for you will keep them from cheating because they simply assume that they won’t get caught, and they don’t feel bad for what they did.
It is important to note that personal closeness and affection in the relationship cannot be used to check whether your partner will be faithful. Ultimately, cheating behavior is less about you and more about your boyfriend’s principles and whether they are strong enough to resist the very intense force of sensual temptation.
Most men will not say “no” if the sexual opportunity is presented on a platter of gold. It’s just that most men may never get such opportunity because they are not high-status enough to attract droves of women. In the case of a high-status guy with tons of opportunity, only his ethics and his self-control stand in the way of cheating.
If you’re not sure where your boyfriend stands in all of this, you may have to look at some signs of how he acts in other areas of his life to determine how likely he might be to cheat in the future. Examine his behavior closely and ask yourself a few important questions:
How Does He Treat His Friends?
Watch his interactions with his closest friends. How well does he treat them? When he makes a promise to one of them, does he keep it? Or does he try to talk his way out of it?
If his friend tells him a secret, does he keep it to himself, or does he go around spreading it?
If he decides that he no longer gets along with someone from his circle, does he start mistreating them or talking badly about them to others?
These are very vital questions to ask yourself, because they can reveal how your boyfriend really views life. He might tell you that he believes one thing with his mouth, but his actions say otherwise, if this is the case, then he might cheat on you.
How Does He Treat Strangers?
Another revealing sign that he may or may not cheat is how he treats people he doesn’t even know. After all, you used to be a stranger to him at one point, and there’s nothing stopping you from becoming one again.
Does he have a concept of fairness and does he treat everyone with basic dignity, even if he gets nothing out of it? Or is he only loyal and kind to people he likes?
The reason that this is important is that one day he may decide that he doesn’t like you or that he doesn’t want to be with you anymore. If you rely on him to treat you well only because he loves you, then you can expect him to lie, cheat, and generally cause drama if he ever finds you niggling.
After all, if he has this mindset and he doesn’t love you anymore, there’s no reason to treat you well.
What Are His Friends Like?
What kind of crowd does he hang around with? Are they kind people who treat others fairly, or are they always looking for something to gain and extract from others?
Another thing to consider is whether or not you think his friends are trustworthy. If your boyfriend surrounds himself with opportunistic, lying, cheating idiots, and you think that he’s the one diamond in the rough that is just so different from them—he’s probably not. Your love may blind you to the fact that he’s just like they are. If his friends are cheating on their partners, he probably will, too.
If you actually like your boyfriend’s social circle, though, this is very good. In fact, you can further reduce your chances of being cheated on if you can be mutual friends with the people who know him, since they will be less likely to cover up his dishonesty and keep you in the dark.
Did He Cheat On His Girlfriends Before He Met You?
A guy with a history of cheating in his past relationship is more likely to cheat again in a new one. This is another red flag. Try bringing up the topic during a conversation about youthful mistakes or messy breakups or something like that. Ask him about it in a casual, open-minded way. If he seems nonchalant about his cheating and says that he only did it because he didn’t love his partner anymore, this is a huge sign that he will cheat if you get into a relationship with him.
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Is Cheating a “Big Deal” to Him or Not?
Ask him in a nonjudgmental way what his views on cheating are. If he acts like it’s no big deal, or sees it as just a natural feature of relationships, then be sure that he’ll definitely be unfaithful if you are in a relationship with him. On the other hand, if your boyfriend seems to take the subject seriously and basically says that cheating manners is below his morals, this is a good sign, though that is still not 100% guarantee.