Basic Tips for Leaving an Abusive Relationship

Committing to a Sociopath

Getting married is supposed to be an act of devotion between two equal partners who have each other’s best interests at heart and want to love each other till the end. And it can be. But this may be farfetched if your partner is a sociopath or abusive.

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They can be so convincing at first, making you believe that they are the best thing to ever happen to you, the answer to your prayers, everything you could ever hope for in a life partner. But their mask of sanity will come off after the later on, probably sometime after the wedding. Sociopath rarely ever say what they mean, and wedding vows are no exception. When you marry a personality disorder, you may as well vow to sacrifice your own health and comply to their every demands.

What to Do When Leaving an Abusive Partner

  1. Seek out a qualified attorney, do everything you can to protect your money and property, and essentially just get everything in order.
  2. If your abuser finds out that you are attempting to leave, there could be devastating issues. So to avoid this, do not do any research regarding your exit strategy on a shared computer. Also, delete texts and phone calls from any attorneys, accountants or therapists you are in contact with.
  3. You can tell your trusted friends and relatives that you are planning to leave your abusive partner, only those whom you are certain will not side with your abuser. These people will be your support network.
  4. Ensure your exit is as peaceful as possible. Take your personal belongings and get out while your toxic mate is not home. Otherwise, have one or more of your support group with you to act as a witness. If your spouse has vicious tendencies, it’s probably a good idea to have a police officer present while you gather your stuffs.
  5. Remain calm in front of your children when exiting a toxic relationship. Whether you have to leave them with your spouse, or whether you are the one taking them, do not lose your cool.
  6. You may have to inform your boss after leaving an abusive partner because the abuser may try to disrupt your life by getting you fired over repeated calls during office hours, slandering you, making threats, etc.

What Not To Do When Leaving an Abusive Partner

  1. Don’t allow them to provoke you. No matter how they infuriate you, don’t burst out out that you are planning on leaving. They may not take that bit of news well.
  2. Don’t allow them to manipulate you. It’s very possible they’ll sense something is up, and they will try to get it out of you any way they can. If they sense you leaving them, they will do everything in their power to pull you back in.
  3. Don’t be bullied by any suicidal threats. This may very well happen right after your departure. It’s usually nothing more than a wretched attempt to guilt you back into the toxic relationship.
  4. Don’t return back to an abusive partner because they threaten to harm or run away with your children. Call the police in this case. Besides, if your partner is capable of harming their own children, you may not be safe when you return.
  5. Don’t be ashamed to seek help from a therapist depending on how long you were controlled by your toxic partner. You could have some deep seated issues that you need to resolve. You’ll also want to ensure you don’t end up getting attached to another abusive partner.
  6. Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Many people in toxic relationships neglect their own needs, always giving top priority to their abusive partner. Once free, you can start a fitness routine, eat healthier, sleep better, and watch what you want on TV. Read the books that interest you, spend time with friends and relatives.Most people chose to remain in toxic relationships for all sorts of reasons. Some of the most common ones are fear for their own safety, fear of losing their children, and fear of losing belongings and finances. Seek legal counsel, and find out what your best options are.

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