It’s true that couples who spend quality time together doing fun things are happier in their relationship than couples who don’t.
A new research from the University of Denver actually supports this.
Howard Markman, a psychologist who co-directs the university’s Center for Marital and Family Studies says;
“The more you invest in fun and friendship and being there for your partner, the happier the relationship will get over time. The correlation between fun and marital happiness is high, and significant.”
However, the increasing responsibilities of life and work may cause play time between couples to decline over time, gradually slipping away. It’s more common in couple’s where both spouse’s work. Then when the kids start coming, the extra parenting duties even makes it more challenging for couple to find time together.
Overlooking your “fun time” together can lead to problems down the road, so start scheduling in a little time for yourself.
How Gender Comes Into Play
For bonding in relationships, men and women see things a little differently. Researchers say that the connection between participating in activities together is even more central with men as they are more likely to call their spouse their best friend.
According to Les Parrott, a psychology professor and author of relationship books;
“Intimacy and friendship for a man is built on shared activity, but for women, shared activity is a background for a great conversation. What she wants on date night is a time of intimacy and friendship. He’s disappointed because she’ll never go to a game or golfing, and it’s during shared activities that his spirit is most likely to open up.”
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According to new study, men and women perceive “dates” in a different way. When surveying men and women regarding how long it had been since their last date with their partner, women, on average, said that it had been twice as long since their last date than men did. Their definitions of a “date” are different as well. Women tend to define a date as a “planned-in-advance” outing with their husband putting in the effort. Men, on the other hand, may consider date as simply grabbing a cup of coffee.
Activities to Avoid
In spite of the fact that you may be doing them together, not all activities build positive relationships.
- Watching TV
While you may be cuddling on the couch together to watch TV, this is more of a unsocial activity rather than an engaging one that encourages you to have fun and focus on your partner.
- Movie Theaters
You technically went out together, but spend the entire time focused on the big screen rather than each other. This isn’t a bonding activity for couples.
- Computer Time
Even if you are both glancing at the screen together, this is another private activity that lacks fun and not suitable for couples.
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Activities to Enjoy
The best fun often comes from new and thrilling activities. The idea is to engage each other, try fresh things, and create great memories together. These activities include:
- Rock climbing
- Bike riding
- Go-kart racing
- Hot air balloon ride
- Join a ballroom dance class
- Attend an art class
- Take a cooking class
- Mini Golf
Do’s and Don’ts
- Do something exciting.
- Do something different.
- Be creative
- Do get out of your comfort zone.
- Do compromise on activity ideas.
- Don’t go for the standard dinner date.
- Don’t push your partner to do something they are not comfortable doing.